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The Story Behind the Carer's Diary

    I have created this blog to share with you the trials and tribulations of caring for my partner Coverley, who was diagnosed with dementia in 2014. My diary is my trusted and loyal companion.  A friend that is happy to listen for hours on end. My first diary was an inexpensive one that I got from the local dollar shop. It helped me to plan each day so as to survive the chaos and confusion that had invaded and engulfed our home.   It was the first thing I turned to when I got up each morning.   It was a reminder to me of the ever increasing visits to doctors, specialists, dentists and hearing check-ups.   Sneakily, more and more of the every day jobs were becoming mine so these were added in the diary too.   As dementia's grip tightened, reminders of social engagements and activities were almost non-existent in the diary.   Where did all the friends go?   When did they go?   I was beginning to feel resentful, so I began using my diary like a journal.   Writing in

Dementia Moves In

In July 2014 my partner, Coverley, of 15 years was diagnosed with mixed Vascular and Alzheimer's dementia. He was 68 years old.    In hindsight there were earlier signs, but being 10 years younger, I never gave it too much thought.  I just thought he was getting a little forgetful with age.  The notion that he had a form of dementia never once crossed my mind. He had always been a very active, lively and motivated man.  He had a childish eagerness for life and lived it to the fullest.  His energy was to be envied.  A party didn't start until he arrived.  He was the party.  He was the joker.  His generosity knew no bounds.  Dementia didn't happen to people with his vibrancy.  But it did.  Dementia is more than a brain disease     I had been ignorant of this dreadful insidious thief that was literally sucking the life out of Cov.  The impact of his diagnosis was devastating to the both of us. Somehow, in a short time, I got a grip on the situation by going into denial and

Introducing Coverley

Coverley acting the pro-skier I cared for Coverley at home for 5 years before he went into an Aged Care Facility under difficult and tragic circumstances. He was initially diagnosed with mixed Vascular dementia and Alzheimer's Disease.  Before going into his Aged Care Facility he spent a traumatic 18 weeks in Lismore Base Hospital where his dementia diagnosis was changed to Lewy Body Dementia based on his severe sensitivities to anti-psychotic medications.  He has been in his current Aged Care Facility for 18 months. It has been a trying time for medical staff to get his behaviours associated with his dementia manageable. During this time he has been tormented with hallucinations, delusions and paranoia. He has suffered relentlessly and greatly.  Snow deep fun  In his calmer moments, despite his confusion and suffering, he has maintained his humour, his thoughtfulness and his impeccable manners.  At times he is still able to express his concern and love for myself and others. I